tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-805417756711150060.post6204356226922078630..comments2023-04-02T00:41:28.450-07:00Comments on Colin's Corner: What to Tell AvaUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-805417756711150060.post-12918389743132371852011-12-25T20:11:45.001-08:002011-12-25T20:11:45.001-08:00I don't have any other children, so I have no ...I don't have any other children, so I have no kind of insight to share with you. But for what it's worth, I don't think Ava will resent you for what happened.Nika M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15716308480356654189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-805417756711150060.post-27329841986324842762011-12-23T20:48:00.037-08:002011-12-23T20:48:00.037-08:00We struggle with this ourselves. We aren't Chr...We struggle with this ourselves. We aren't Christians and don't ascribe to the Christian idea of Heaven and angels. However, if that's the path that Sam wants to take in the future then we will support that. In the meantime, we've had trouble explaining our belief system to him. It's so much easier to explain the afterlife in terms of a "place." Most of our friends are Christian and pretty devout so we also struggle with the instances in which they tell Sam that Toby is in Heaven or that Toby is an angel. It's really confusing to him right now since we're NOT telling him these things. As he gets older, though, he seems to understand a little more. A year before Toby died our friend JIm died and Sam went to his funeral. When Toby died, for the first few months Sam would say that Toby was with Jim and we kind of left it at that for awhile. <br /><br />We've already run into the problem of other kids talking to him about his "dead" brother, and not in the nicest of ways. A couple of weeks ago his best friend was over and stood over Iris saying, "Toby died, he died, yeah, he died...and YOU might die, too." So for the past few weeks we've been having THAT conversation.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01584804886565484963noreply@blogger.com